Sacred Sex: The Sexual Act.

Sacred sex is called as such because it's based on the principle that both partners are sacred, as well as every detail, every moment. It's not reduced to the sexual act, but it expands and reaches any other aspect involving both lovers. Treating ourselves as sacred beings, as well as others is essential in the relationship. It's the encounter of a Goddess and a God, the recognition of who we really are, and the realisation that what we offer to others, we offer to ourselves. In sacred sex, two lovers create an universe of love and abundance. 

While the previous paragraph recreates the imagery of a relationship that sounds and looks idyllic, reaching this state and/or staying there might not be as simple. One cannot reach such states with the mind alone, but must follow a feeling, an indestructible intention that does not give up at the first short fall. Let's not forget that we're humans, beings with a proclivity to break everything we touch. But let's not forget either, that we're indeed beings with extraordinary gifts that we fail to recognise and admire, first in ourselves, then in others. 

It doesn't have to be neither serious, nor perfect. It could be clumsy, showered in laughter and playfulness. It's the perfect time to use the imagination. 

This blog post might not make sense without reading the previous one: Sacred Sex: The Growth in Sexual Energy, which offers an account of how two people get to such a heightened state. 

The previous article describes a period of a few days of foreplay, of getting to know each other by allowing time, patience, trust, understanding, love and passion to flow. A time in which two people experience themselves and each other always enjoying the moment. As those moments were so rich in playfulness and presence, there was no need for anything else. 

Sexual energy was playful and intense, but it was never tense. After five days of play, we reached the bed. Not even then there was any sense of urgency or that this has to be done now. 

What happened next would have never taken place had we decided to have sex the first night under those circumstances. At one point, and while still in the foreplay stage, I could see myself in her eyes and she could see myself in mine. To make this clear. I saw myself within her, as she saw herself within me. This was a moment that showed us both that what we do to others, we do to ourselves, and what we do to ourselves, we do to others. 

It's one of those rare episodes in our lives that makes it clear that sex is, and should always be treated as sacred if there had been any doubts before such moment. The tenderness and beauty of the moment didn't remove the excitement, but it increased the desire. 

Minutes within the act, she noticed that she could feel everything I felt, as I felt everything she did. Such feelings made us to recreate in the moment, to linger, to make a much more deliberate effort on movements  and touch. 

There were, of course many more details that I would not share with anyone, as the information provided so far suffices to illustrate what can be achieved with sacred sex, out of love for ourselves and the other. 

This blog post is not a reference to what other people should or shouldn't do in regards to intimacy or sex, but an account of a reality that may encourage others to explore and play with the possibilities that are presented within a relationship. Sacred sex doesn't have to be reduced to sex within a established or new relationship. It can be applied to any sexual encounter between two willing counterparts. 

There will be future articles on sacred sex explaining in more details the steps that someone might follow in order to create more intimacy and deeper connections within their relationships. 


More on sacred sex:

Sacred Sex: Honouring Heart, Body, Soul and the Miracle of Love.

Sacred sex: Is the sex you have as safe as you think it is?